(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); So i had to read this book called Esperanza Rising and had to relate it to things today. I related it to child abuse here is my esssy. If you need to use it feel free. I know its bad but i have NEVER said it was good lol.


Contrary to the beliefs of some parents throughout the world I don’t think abusing a child emotionally can cause them to behave better. After you see my point of view on the subject I hope you feel the same. I feel as though threating a child can do nothing but make them afraid of you or want you to go away. It also seems that raising your voice at a child makes them more upset and causes them to tune you out. Another one of my opinions is that punishing a child for something they did not mean to do is wrong. Here is why I feel this way about these situations.
Have you ever seen a child spill something on the floor of a home and they already feel bad about what they have done that it is enough punishment on its own, but to make it worse a parent has to approach the child and yell at them and make them feel even worse. This can make the child afraid to do it again and may help to discipline them but it can also have a very negative effect. Raising your voice at a child can often make them feel threatened and then they just ignore you and cause you to get even madder. Another thing they may do if they feel threated is to try to get away from you. “This in turn can make you frustrated and may cause you to grab them. This can be considered abuse if the child is hurt or if the wrong person sees you do it “(Mater 5). The best thing to do in this situation is to just let them go and approach them at a later time. This will help both sides to avoid doing something they may regret later. Why would you punish a child for something they did not mean to do, something that could have happened to anyone? Just because they are a child does not mean it’s okay to treat them different in this situation. If your mom split some drink on the floor would you yell and scream at her? Most likely not because you know that she did not mean to hurt your property. It’s the same with a child they most likely did not spill a drink on the carpet on purpose and should not be punish as though they had this intent.
Another way in which a dispute with your children can be hurtful is when your abuse them emotionally. During an argument you always want to remember that you are not only the parent but the older more “mature” adult. So even if they are getting under your skin you want to stay calm and make sure you show them respect. If you show them respect the child will respect you. I believe that this is what causes the reader in Esperanza Rising to lose respect for Tio Lois. When he raises his voice at Esperanza it makes her mad so then she will not listen to any of his ideas. He also disrespects her and her mother by asking her to marry him after such a short period of time after Esperanza’s father dies. (Munoz Ryan) During an argument many hurtful things can be said. Most of them were not meant to hurt the other person involved in the fight but did. But you must remember that you have to look things hurtful things over because they we said out of spite and during a fight between both parties. Raising your voice at a child can help to get your point across but it can also scare them. This can be a good and bad parent strategy. It can cause the child to obey you but can also make them not want to be around you.
A way that I have noticed I have gotten mad and it be over nothing is when an adult acts as though I am someone less than them. They act that there older age somehow makes them more valuable to others. “When trying to get a child’s respect you always want to act as though they are the best at everything” (Vazelli). You want to make them feel wanted and needed. But as you do this you don’t want to cause them to feel that they are better than their peers. Don’t cause them to be stuck-up or snobby. The older children get the more respect they have towards adults but as we grow up we also find out the annoying things we do as a child and attempt to stop our bad habit. As Esperanza looks back on what has happened she can tell that some of the things she has said to her father workers we not right and she finds them and try’s to correct them. In the book Esperanza Rising Esperanza is forced to grow up faster than most people her age need to. As she is forced to grow up she notices that just because her father workers don’t have the same amount of money as her family has that doesn’t make them less important or less of a value to the world. Her father never thought any less of the people that worked for him and i believe that at the end of the story she sees that and respects her father for it.
Choosing the right punishment for the right situation can be crucial. It may be a night without a T.V or a month without it. But I can say from my experiences that taking away 1 thing that i like it better for my parents that taking away everything. If you just take one thing away you get your point across and the child has to go without it. But if you take everything away then you have to deal with them being bored. If you take everything away the whole time they have to go without it they are just finding a way to get it back as fast as possible. This can make them annoying you to.
I hope after reading this research paper that you see my points of view and can understand where I am coming from. I hope you don’t take this as a parenting guide or a test of your parenting abilities but instead a way to better you’re parenting ways or get new ideas. I feel as though coming from a child I would know the most effective way to punish, show respect, and get along with me and many other children but still be able to show that you mean business and are serious. I have one more thing for you to think about as I end this paper. When you were a child did you say “I will be a better parent than the ones I have”? Well if you did answer that question truthfully to yourself. If you say yes then you have successfully raised your children in a good and productive way.

It was a book we read as a class. Im in 10th grade english. It went along with a unit on mexico we were doing and it took about a week to read.

I remember that book, read it in school as well. Not too bad of an essay