(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); The ability to understand human emotions and human behaviors is a great gift, or a skill that can be developed. So I thought it would be fun to create a situation and have some people analyze it. If you are majoring in Social Science in high school or college this should be a great review.

Situation:

There is a 15 year old boy named Bob. Bob is a good looking kid and gets a lot of girls, he is a jerk to everyone and insults everyone that he possibly can, but girls like him for that.

There is this one girl who he abuses the most verbally, calling her ugly and insulting her overall. After he does this they usually stop talking for about a day or so and he goes to apologize. The girl always forgives him, and the next few days they are fine until he starts insulting her again. This cycle is repeated for months.

A couple months later that girl finds a boyfriend, Bob for some reason was outraged and insults her with insults that he has never used before and he also insults her boyfriend by calling him ugly, weak, stupid, etc.

He never talks to this girl ever again.

My theory:

At first I thought that Bob may actually like this girl, and using his method of being a jerk to try to get her like he got every other girl, but this doesn't work on her, so when she gets a boyfriend he takes it as a sign of rejection and throws every insult at her knowing that he no loner has a chance with her.

But then I thought, even if he is trying to be a jerk there is no way he can expect to get a girl by calling her ugly, etc. So then I thought what if Bob just enjoys causing pain to others, I'm not sure if there is a single word for this, and I know it can't be bully because most bullies are insecure, if Bob gets a lot of girls why would he be insecure? So maybe he's just a person who entertains himself through the pain of others.

Post your theories and thank if you like this thread =D

I think your first theory is right

I think Bob is just a vain person who feels the need to constantly reassure himself. Insulting others makes him feel superior. Although he may not actually like the girl, the fact that she chose someone else makes him feel inferior.

That sounds like a pretty valid reason.

I think Bob's a playah.

i think Bob needs to get a life instead of being a shithead to everyone else. if i was the girls gf i was kick his ASS!! lol then tbag him so many times while hes on the ground.

Kinda like you DDO?

You said Bob has been mistreating people but girls still like him. It seems to me that Bob believes that is the behavior that people expect from him. If he has been mean to people and they still like him then he believes that is what people want from him.

People stick with the behavior that works for them. Bob has been mean but still has friends and girls still like him. Why would he change his behavior when he is getting what he wants from it?

Bob takes an extra interest in insulting the girl in your example. It makes sense, if he is mean to girls and they like him, then it would make sense to him that if he was extra mean, then the girl would like him more.

Then Bob finds out the girl is dating someone else and he feels rejected and hurt so he follows his old patterns - he increases his level of insults and included the new boyfriend.

The problem is, Bob hasn't yet learned what acceptable behavior is and how to deal with his feelings. His friends don't help matters because they act like it is ok for him to behave like a jerk.

He never talks to the girl again because he doesn't know how to approach her. He used what has always worked for him (insulting people) and it failed. Until he learns another way to relate to people, he won't feel comfortable doing anything but insulting people.

Eventually the behavior will change on its own because it will fail him. No one wants to be insulted continually so they won't tolerate his behavior for long. Bob will have to learn a different way of relating to people if he wants to maintain any long term relationships.