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I believe I'm DEFINITIVELY wrong in this forum with my problem here, but an attempt it is worth.
I'm nearly 18 years old and during the last years I had hard time quite properly. I'm momentary on a german high school and take there the next year my school-leaving exam (Abitur). My problem is easy:
I lose slowly my life sense, but no(!) I don't think about things like suicide! Only this persistent situation makes me emotionally weak. I myself had neither a kiss or a girlfriend, besides, I'm not so ugly at all or however. Just I think that sucks because in our clique everybody already had somebody or still have this person, while it looks completely different to me as I said. I ask my self always what this failure causes. Yes, I am shy but, otherwise, everything is normally in me. There is always the last kickwhich miss to talk to girls. I don't like to talk with them because I get very nervous and this stuff. Another point is that there is nobody with I openly talk about this theme. I just can't look to all this happy relationships and how happy they are. In a disco is it almost the same. Everybody dances in and I stare at the whole girls. Sure I also dance but yeah this also makes me unhappy so I often leave the disco earlier. Well, with the girls is also the problem because here are many b1tchy with their Style and then the pervert guys which grab their a$$es. Personaly this isn't for me and from those kind are a lot girls trust me. I just want a normal relationship with all the stuff and from those there is massively. If I remember correctly in earlier I only got rejected. I also don't leave my house since some months because I ask myself: For what I should leave my house? Here is nothing new or special it is always the same.
My circle of friends is also rather poor, however, the most part are guys, but with it I can live. My week-ends are every time the same. I meet my friends and we drink alcohol. For me is it the time to 'relax' from the whole situation.
The alcohol doesn't help me alot. My feelings only get stronger. Sure! There are girls but yeah they look good but they are already in a relationship or are just slúty. With my parents it also doesn't looks so different also because they scream a lot to me for everything. It doesn't matter what I did (School etc.) . Even the school puts under stress there strongly with the whole system. I just want to survive this shit and pass succesfully my school-leaving exam, even if I know it will be very hard.

Does somebody have an idea what I could change or how can avoid this?

I would be happy about every answer and idea! And those people who think to make stupid comments or sth. like that: Just die.

So if you read the text till the end, sorry for wasting your time on NGU. :-)

There's time for everything my friend no rush at all, try not to worry it's only going to make things worst.

First off, your young mate worry when you still have those feeling when your middle aged. Second, I think everyone feels the same way at some point in their life, so your not alone and never will be alone in the boat.

Only you can make your life better, it had taken me a very long time to learn that, but it is always good to have someone to listen even if they are a stranger or can't do anything to help, building up the emotions inside will do no good trust me you only get deeper and deeper depressed and it starts to effect your life and could end up being permanent. Have a goal in life, aim for it and don't let anything else distract or influence you reaching your goal.

Don't hide away at home I made that mistake and I became very shy, I wouldn't talk to anyone. Get out and about, join a club or something even if you don't want to talk to someone just turn up then once you gain confidence then you will find it easier to mix.

About meeting girls, some men have the confidence to just go up to a girl and start chatting or ask her out, some of us don't, it's the way life goes nothing can change that, but there will be some girls who like the quiet type, because they see them as more loving and caring type of man, more secure in a relationship than other men, and once you get to know someone start talking to her, your confidence will grow.

I think parents are designed to shout at us for any reason, it maintains control, it will pass.

Your age at school is always stressful, well it is now a days, you need to find something to release that stress with, me I found PC engineering, gaming, really long walks, they have all helped me. If you feel your getting really stressed, drop everything and go for a walk to clear your head, listening to some music while walking helps me. Oh and don't rely on alcohol it does no good for stress, sure it may make your problems feel better, but then you will want more alcohol then more and more, then next thing you know your in hospital and AA meetings.

You will not be wasting anybody's time for those who have read your post, there will always be someone to listen and maybe help.

I hope this helps if only a very little bit

For a second, I thought I wrote this post. Our lives are almost identical.
I'm 16, 17 in June. I used to be in your position, but I overcame some aspects of it - the aspects that mattered most to me.

I'm young. I know. But people seem to forget that no matter your age, you can still encounter problems in life.

When I was in Year 6, it was the leavers disco, and I had a crush on this girl (let's call her X). Anyway, I had a crush on X since like Year 4. I thought she was amazing. Funny, quite cute... I must've been about 10, so I had no idea what love is or what "fancying" was etc.
But I knew she'd make me happy, I just couldn't ask her out. I was too shy.
Time passed and because I didn't ask her out, she went to prom with my best friend, and it kinda crushed me inside. Like MY friend knew I liked her, yet he took it upon himself to take her from me.

Now I'm 16. I failed my GCSEs because I didn't listen to my parents when they would shout at me to revise. I met a girl on Skype and I discovered she actually went to the same high school as me. I never bothered to meet her in school because I knew how shy I'd get and yeah. I really liked her. One day I decided that I wanted her in my life instead of just sitting, talking on Skype and eventually loosing her. I met her. She was even more beautiful irl, and from that day on we spoke non-stop day in day out for 7 months when I decided to ask her out on New Years Day as the fireworks were going off.

I am the happiest I've ever been. I no longer have any dickhead friends that I need to worry about and yeah... I achieved all of this because I took the risk.

Life is all about risks. You either take them, or walk away from them. Either way you will always face them. If they bring you down, just know that it's YOUR life. No one else's. You control your life, live it the way you want it to be lived.

As for the shy problem, be yourself. Girls don't want a fake boyfriend. The ones that aren't slutty or taken are often the best girls you'll ever meet. I didn't even know my girl existed, let alone attended my school.

Hope you overcome your issues man. I have overcome mine. I'll be waiting for you to join me. You're missing out on a whole bunch of happiness.

Most people don't find their own way until their 30s and often in a different to their studies or dreams.
Shyness around girls can be solved by not thinking and just saying hello.
That also comes with age
Most people a real normal relationship does not happen until you're 25 odd.

Parents always do that if they want the best for you.

Sadly, it happens part of growing up making sense of the world and your place.
Ride going to settle down in a couple of years in a direction you want.