Post: 20 years on wtf should i do
05-04-2011, 10:59 PM #1
KingEric2011
Who’s Jim Erased?
(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); I dont know why im sharing this but wtf here it goes.I just got a phone call from my real dad 20 years since he last saw me i dont remember him but hes adament he wants to met me,but im not sure if i want to meet him were the fck has he been all my life.Im 21 btw and this has my head spinning i dont know what to do should i hear him out or should i beat the shit out of him my head is fcked up has anyone ever dealt with a situation like this id like to hear some opinions b4 i make a decision well thats about it thanks for reading and plz be nice as my head is really fcked up and im thinking of fcking his head up well thats about it plz leave genuine responses or dont respond at all thanks guys.

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05-04-2011, 11:38 PM #29
KingEric2011
Who’s Jim Erased?
Originally posted by B
If he hasn't made any effort to contact you in 20 years, why the **** should you even bother? No excuse can justify that much time. He's probably contacting you to satisfy his own demons.... But, at the end of the day, it's down to you.... This is the way i would make my choice, could i happily carry on living my life as it was, giving him no chance at all.. Or, giving him the chance to explain himself and possibly get closure on the whole issue (if that is what you are looking for?)...

Choice is down to you...


Thanks m8 i think i happily live without him he should GTFO lol thanks
05-04-2011, 11:43 PM #30
Originally posted by KingEric2011 View Post
I dont know why im sharing this but wtf here it goes.I just got a phone call from my real dad 20 years since he last saw me i dont remember him but hes adament he wants to met me,but im not sure if i want to meet him were the fck has he been all my life.Im 21 btw and this has my head spinning i dont know what to do should i hear him out or should i beat the shit out of him my head is fcked up has anyone ever dealt with a situation like this id like to hear some opinions b4 i make a decision well thats about it thanks for reading and plz be nice as my head is really fcked up and im thinking of fcking his head up well thats about it plz leave genuine responses or dont respond at all thanks guys.

See what he wants, it could be important, or he just wanted to see you cant hurt to see right?
05-04-2011, 11:44 PM #31
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dkimcsu
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Your father is probably very guilty about how things played out and feels an immense amount of regret. This weak sauce attempt to reach out to you is nothing more than him trying to relieve the guilt he feels.

An evil heartless man in your position would ignore or strongly reject this offer and go on living normally secretly wishing that it would inflict at least some pain. I personally suggest actually accepting his request. I wouldn't get too emotionally attached since this jerk off has already abandoned you once. But at least give him a chance to become involved and do the right thing.

Best case scenario, you gain a good friend (you can never have enough). Worst case, he meets you, ask to borrow money, then never shows up again. If this happens you can laugh in his face and tell him to F*** off.

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05-04-2011, 11:57 PM #32
NeedaLifeSoon
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Originally posted by KingEric2011 View Post
I dont know why im sharing this but wtf here it goes.I just got a phone call from my real dad 20 years since he last saw me i dont remember him but hes adament he wants to met me,but im not sure if i want to meet him were the fck has he been all my life.Im 21 btw and this has my head spinning i dont know what to do should i hear him out or should i beat the shit out of him my head is fcked up has anyone ever dealt with a situation like this id like to hear some opinions b4 i make a decision well thats about it thanks for reading and plz be nice as my head is really fcked up and im thinking of fcking his head up well thats about it plz leave genuine responses or dont respond at all thanks guys.


It may be one of the more difficult decisions of your life so far.
You seem as though you have moved on and do not need to see him for your happiness.
But consider how you will feel 20 yrs from today? Will you regret not meeting him then, when he may have passed away?
The decision is yours and I would advise that you take your time and consider it, He should be made to wait either way and I would be stringing him along for awhile either way. He deserves at least a little taste of his own medicine.
Feel comfortable that whatever decision you make, you have made the right one, because you do not need him anymore and have moved on with your life. Good Luck !!!
05-05-2011, 12:37 AM #33
Solo
Rookie
He's your dad... I'd atleast try to reconcile. Don't act like a tool or do something stupid. He left you before you could say "Dad," don't act like you've moved on or anything like people are saying. You can't move on from something that was never there.
05-05-2011, 04:35 AM #34
Dopey
NGU :/
Here are my 3 cents. There is always an excuse for parents leaving their kids. People change especially after 20 years. What's the worst that can happen?
05-05-2011, 04:39 AM #35
^^ Yup, that and you'd regret it immensely if you didn't meet up with him and something happens further down the line. At least hear him out Smile
05-05-2011, 04:45 AM #36
Church_Chicken
The Local Nigga
i'd go commando balls to the walls style.
hear him out and see what he says, if you dont like it. go commando and t-bag him ofc.
but theirs nothing wrong w/ reconciling with family. who knows maybe he wasnt emotionally ready for a child... & now he is..
every person gets a second chance.
05-05-2011, 04:54 AM #37
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At least I can fight
Speak with him. Ask him why did you leave me? If he doesn't give you an answer leave.

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