(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); I think my parents are getting divorced, my mum says she wants my dad out of the house in another 2 weeks, im in the middle of my GCSE's and feel that this is going to **** up the whole of my school days, im in year 10 and its nearly the summer holidays.

Apparently my dad had a one night stand like 12 years ago, but my dads a good guy, he buys me stuff and takes me too football, my mum just shouts at me and my brother and is never happy?

How will it effect my life, and if they do divorce to i get to choose who to stay with?
Im only asking on here because im not the only one.

Have a conversation with them when your dad comes back. Tell them to tell you the truth about what is happening and tell them it is effecting your GCSE's. Tell them that your dad is a good guy (if he did have a one night stand) and he buys, cares and loves you.

About the last bit, go to whoever you want. Don't be bribed or forced into one if they do divorce. Do what YOU want, it's your life after all.

As a matter of fact you if you have to chose you may be able to say both and they will have to work something out so that they stay together. I was worried that my parents were going to get divorced at one point in my life too. It was a really sad time for me especially because I was always there when they argued. They didn't end up divorcing and pretty much just started acting like normal parents. They explained to me when I was 8 years old that we were essentially poor when we came to Canada, and that me being born was a burden < I was like :lol: but I couldn't blame them. They had to go to school when they came to Canada and it was really hard on my Dad to work so hard just to put food on the table. Things worked out, and look where I am now, I have all the stuff I could wish for.

Enough about that, I just wanted to try to comfort you as I do have some personal experience.

If they Do divorce (God forbid) you can get to choose which parent you stay with, however most of the time the other parent would want some sort of custody over you as well and then you would have to split it like: 1 week at your father 1 week at your mothers house, and so forth.

It's important that your mother looks ahead to the future instead to the past. My mom used to always shout at me and sometimes even "disciplined" me. (SPANK SPANK) And I don't blame her for it. She taught me things that just a regular talking would never have.


So YES, you do get to choose which parent you stay with in most cases as far as I am concerned. But don't let it come down to this, let her settle down then talk it over, as a family.

Wish you all the best :y:

Thanks....what your saying makes sense, im 15 have never really settled into a school in my entire life, ive always been moving around, i like where i am and i enjoy the school im at...i can hear my mum now shouting at my dad, he cares about my education but my mum doesnt get the bigger picture, my dad hasnt once said he wants a divorce...i just feel like crying.

Just keep positive buddy, stay out of your parents arguments, when they fight.. just head in your room, and go on ngu. We'll cheer you up. Keep playing football to

double christmas presents and birthday presents for u hahaaaaaaaa look on the bright side

Tell them that. This may go the wrong way but it isn't meant to at all. Say you feel like living with someone else for a while or something and they may get some sense and knock the arguing on the head.

Yea your right, people are worse of out there, i love my dad and my mum but i've never seen my mum happy shes always miserable and hitting me, whenever shes around we always have arguments but when my its just me and my dad we never have arguments, i dont want them to get divorced but u think they will, my mums still shouting... :/

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Ahhh ****...i can hear my dad crying...this is tearing me apart.

My mom used to go beserk sometimes. It was really hard for her. I would have done the same thing. She said that she was going through a hard time, and I don't blame her. Go and comfort your dad. Talk to him and make sure that he knows that you love him and you always will. Approach her when she is calm and collective, and talk things over. Explain how hard your life is going to be if this happens. Just have hope. I know how you feel. I'll be here if you need any more advice.

Thankyou xx

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;( my dads just gone.