Post: Need help making a decision..
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10-13-2011, 04:08 AM
#1
DCLXVI
Smoke weed.
I don't want to break her heart, because she REALLY REALLY loves me, like, ALOT; But i don't want to be in a boring relationship either.
So should i break up with her or not? Is there anything you guys talk about with your girlfriends that i could try?
10-14-2011, 12:59 PM
#11
xinfectedsoulx
Daddy's home.
I think tornado creator pretty much said it all. If you both like each other and not be able to strike up a convo, someone is boring. You have to make adjustments. Do something she likes and she'll start doing things you like. Next time you're out with your skateboard, get her to have a go on it and help her with it. You can both laugh when she falls, but you'll be there to catch her. You never know, she might like it. It doesn't have to sound fun, like getting her to go on a skateboard. Sounds boring, but it's the things that it could bring, like a laugh. Next time she does something she likes, ask to have a go, obviously depending one what it is. Take the piss out of yourself to get a laugh going. I do that all the time, just take the piss out of myself. Girls laugh and it shows you're not defensive. If she joins in, carry it on. People at work call me gay, say they're going to rape me, and all sorts of sexual things. I laugh and carry it on. I know I'm not gay, they know I'm not gay, so why should I care and be defensive and have a shit day at work talking to no-one?
You don't have to have a horse and carriage date followed by a meal or some shit to have fun, the small things can sometimes be better memory wise. She's got to be into something that you haven't asked about or found out. Find it and talk about it. Expand what you like doing. Don't be all like "Yeah I'm off to skate with my friends" when you're with her/see her. She won't like that. Don't put on Heavy metal music if she likes pop music. If you live near a beach, go walk on it with her at sunset (if it's safe, obvs) or just go for a walk in the country or where ever.
Anyway, you're not trying enough if you can't get a convo out of her, or she is shy. You need to sort whatever it is out and you'll have a better chance. Otherwise you'll lose her and regret it. Don't give a **** if your mates think you're a fag for doing shit, later on it will all change. You just need to do it to start a relationship.
And now I'm going to not sound like a fag again, for at least today, and go back to being a dick.
I hate you.
You don't have to have a horse and carriage date followed by a meal or some shit to have fun, the small things can sometimes be better memory wise. She's got to be into something that you haven't asked about or found out. Find it and talk about it. Expand what you like doing. Don't be all like "Yeah I'm off to skate with my friends" when you're with her/see her. She won't like that. Don't put on Heavy metal music if she likes pop music. If you live near a beach, go walk on it with her at sunset (if it's safe, obvs) or just go for a walk in the country or where ever.
Anyway, you're not trying enough if you can't get a convo out of her, or she is shy. You need to sort whatever it is out and you'll have a better chance. Otherwise you'll lose her and regret it. Don't give a **** if your mates think you're a fag for doing shit, later on it will all change. You just need to do it to start a relationship.
And now I'm going to not sound like a fag again, for at least today, and go back to being a dick.
I hate you.
10-14-2011, 01:04 PM
#12
COD
Guest
music!!!
also, you could start out with a simple subject like school, and if she mentions her family, start talking about that.
and not all girls like talking about bad movies and celebrities, so you should bring up something she has an apparent intrest in and go from there.
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also too add on Listen actively.
Physical presence during a conversation is only the beginning to impressing a girl. You have to actively listen. All this means is you have to let her know that you’re involved in the conversation. You do this by acknowledging that you hear her, and sometimes asking questions about what she said.
For example, if she says, “I was really tired Saturday.” You can show her you’re listening by saying the following: “I’m sorry to hear that. Did you get enough sleep the night before?”
Restating her comment or asking questions are simple ways to listen actively when talking with your girl.
Give some, get some.
When talking to a girl, be sure to give her quality information about yourself. She will tell you numerous things about herself – what she likes and dislikes; her hopes and dreams. So, it’s just as important to hear what she says and remember it as it is to tell her like information about you.
Often people who are compatible will say they can talk to each other about anything. You don’t have to have every characteristic in common, but if you can communicate about those things equally, your lady will be very impressed.
Take turns.
Learning to share when talking will also help you to impress a girl. Be sure to look in her eyes and be silent when she’s talking so that you can listen actively. But, at the same time don’t just remain silent, and expect her to carry the entire conversation alone. When she gets quiet, and it’s not a pause to think, it’s your turn to keep the communication going.
If talking intently with a girl is new to you, prepare some talking points before seeing her. You can plan to ask her about school, work, family, friends or any of her hobbies. You can talk with her about anything as long as you work to keep the lines of communication open and flowing.
You can impress a girl by talking easily by practicing these basic conversation skills. Being a successful conversationalist will keep her interested in you, and open up the possibilities for a promising and solid relationship. These are exactly how to talk to girls.
also, you could start out with a simple subject like school, and if she mentions her family, start talking about that.
and not all girls like talking about bad movies and celebrities, so you should bring up something she has an apparent intrest in and go from there.
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Originally posted by Equinox
Okay so i'm dating this girl i have had a crush on since the 3rd grade. I'm a freshman in highschool now. Anyways, im really attracted to her and all, but we never have anything to talk about. I'm more into music, skating, and weed, while she isn't really into anything. We seriously just walk together in silence. The only thing i ask her all day is "How is your day going?".
I don't want to break her heart, because she REALLY REALLY loves me, like, ALOT; But i don't want to be in a boring relationship either.
So should i break up with her or not? Is there anything you guys talk about with your girlfriends that i could try?
I don't want to break her heart, because she REALLY REALLY loves me, like, ALOT; But i don't want to be in a boring relationship either.
So should i break up with her or not? Is there anything you guys talk about with your girlfriends that i could try?
also too add on Listen actively.
Physical presence during a conversation is only the beginning to impressing a girl. You have to actively listen. All this means is you have to let her know that you’re involved in the conversation. You do this by acknowledging that you hear her, and sometimes asking questions about what she said.
For example, if she says, “I was really tired Saturday.” You can show her you’re listening by saying the following: “I’m sorry to hear that. Did you get enough sleep the night before?”
Restating her comment or asking questions are simple ways to listen actively when talking with your girl.
Give some, get some.
When talking to a girl, be sure to give her quality information about yourself. She will tell you numerous things about herself – what she likes and dislikes; her hopes and dreams. So, it’s just as important to hear what she says and remember it as it is to tell her like information about you.
Often people who are compatible will say they can talk to each other about anything. You don’t have to have every characteristic in common, but if you can communicate about those things equally, your lady will be very impressed.
Take turns.
Learning to share when talking will also help you to impress a girl. Be sure to look in her eyes and be silent when she’s talking so that you can listen actively. But, at the same time don’t just remain silent, and expect her to carry the entire conversation alone. When she gets quiet, and it’s not a pause to think, it’s your turn to keep the communication going.
If talking intently with a girl is new to you, prepare some talking points before seeing her. You can plan to ask her about school, work, family, friends or any of her hobbies. You can talk with her about anything as long as you work to keep the lines of communication open and flowing.
You can impress a girl by talking easily by practicing these basic conversation skills. Being a successful conversationalist will keep her interested in you, and open up the possibilities for a promising and solid relationship. These are exactly how to talk to girls.
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