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Now. My friend we have known each other for months, I'm in love with her. She knows this. She's told me that she isnt ready for a boyfriend. But when she is I'll be the first one she comes to. We talk everyday, we are really close; however, We rarely get to see each other and we hardly ever gt to spend time together, hang out, and etc. She loves me I know this but she won't admit it because she is afraid I might hurt her in some way, shape, or form. This is not the case. She has also explained to me she has major trust issues. She doesn't trust me, yet we talk to each other everyday and we are best friends. She doesn't trust anyone. She barely trusts her own mother. The reason is because she feels that no one can be trusted because humans lie, steal, back stab, and put themselves before others. She hates the human race just like myself, I have had trut issues until I found someone to put my trust into. That someone is her. I consider myself a misanthropist. And she is starting to consider herself that swell. I'm in the process of trying to help her get over this. But it's hard, overcoming trust issues is a hard thing to do.
Trust is the most expensive thing on this Earth. Its in our nature to trust, it's an instinct. Without trust it can ruin relationships, friendships, bonds, and etc.

Basically what I'm asking for is some advice on what I should do to help her, she says she doesn't want to be helped because she likes keeping her personal life to herself and that's not healthy.

If you need anymore information about the issue just tell me and I'll pm you. I really need your help/advice on this fellow NGU members.

Thanks in advanced.

Also, don't come her trolling on this thread. It's not here for you to like it, and if you don't. No one asked you to click it. Or even come in this section to look for it.

Again, thanks in advance.

i had a friend very similar to this, although i didn't want to date her. all i did was continue talking to her and getting close, and showed her that i truly care for her and wouldn't hurt her. the one big thing i think you could do is tell her that you'll always be there for her, then back that up. help her out with anything she needs. good luck!

Haha yea. I guess there's nothing I can really do. As she doesn't want to be helped. So for now I'll just have to show her. Thanks.

just continue what you're doing, she'll come around. deep down she really does appreciate you though, she's just afraid to show it.

You're probably right. But if there is no reason for here not ding able trust people then why does she feel/act this way? Lol I'm 15 and she's 14. I dot understand how she can't trust anyone when her life isn't even half way over yet. I'm confused. I just need to know the reason why, and once I do I'll understand and stop pestering her about it.

I get why you'd be frustrated. I don't know her, so maybe this isn't a good idea, but I would ask her, but not in an aggressive way, you know? She may have a reason, and if you hear it, you could convince her why that isn't true. But there's always the possibility that there is no reason, that's just the way she thinks.

Hey there.

To be honest with you, I've dated chicks like this before, get out.

All girls like this (and I say girls because all mature women get past this prissy bullshit) are a pain to date, be with and end up taking up a buttload of your time with their trivial-ass issues. She is likely attention seeking and just trying to be different. Girls like this shouldn't be touched with a fifty foot barge pole. She will lie, twist and rip your life & heart apart plus it will end in tears and pain.

This is no troll, this is from my life experience plus the experience of others, girls like this are trouble, if they aren't now, they will be in the future.

My tip to you? Get out while you still can, say it's too much for you or whatever and (assuming you are old enough) find a proper woman who is happier with herself, her body, can trust you and isn't a well for attention or a drain on your life. If you don't want to do that, don't, soldier on, but based on all my life experience, knowing what I know now, if I knew that then, I'd have buggered off very, very quickly.

Cheers!

I would agree with you but in this case not because he said he is 15 and she is 14 so she could be "attention seeking and just trying to be different" but it is more likely at 14 she isn't. Now there is plenty of 14 year old attention seeking girls, I know plenty. But I don't think this is the case.

Believe me. She's not attention seeking. I'm the only one who knows about her trust issue. She's very positive about things. She's a happy person I guess you can say. But a smile can hide things.