Once, make sure you support the child, and her, even if you don't like her or want to be with her, at least don't be a dead beat dad, that's all I ask.

Look, my sister lived with her dad while my mom was married with him for 8 years, she lived with him for 8 years, he put my mom through living hell, I was 4 at the time, I didn't know what to do, I've seen him drag her by her hair across the room and smash her in the face with a phonebook, all I could do was cry, and cry, and cry.. I didn't know what 911 was, I was 4 years old having to see that, I was hit by him, multiple times, by age 5 I lived with my grandma until 2006 when they divorced, finally, she was put through hell, multiple times, multiple thoughts of suicide went through her head, the only reason she didn't kill herself was because she had 3 children she had to take care of, she wouldn't want us growing up knowing my mom killed herself... She's strong, she took 8 years of being beat by a dead beat, by 2008 he told my sister (her dad) that he doesn't want anything to do with her, nothing, she was crushed, crushed for 4 years, just last month she went to see her dad in 4 years, late 2007- late 2012 (adds up to 4 years) she didn't deserve it, she didn't do anything for him to just give up on her. Would you want YOUR child knowing you're a dead beat and not there for him/her at all? Knowing how much pain you're putting your kid through? Please don't be a dead beat, support that girl, support that child.