(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Sounds like a normal situation; mum and dad split up, dad found another woman, dad marries said woman, and I get asked to be best man. However it's not all quite as simple as it seems. >.< I've suffered with severe social anxiety, amongst many other depressive an anxiety disorders since the age of 9-10; I find it physically difficult to put myself into any sort of social situation, and even struggle speaking to people on the phone. I'd been debating whether I was even going to go to this wedding, and although I've never really got on with my dad and he's never really understood my situation, it boiled down to the fact that he's my dad, and he's getting married, and he wanted me to be there.
But I am completely shitting it, now. We're leaving tomorrow to go to Wales, which is near enough 300 miles away from my home, so straight off there's the issue of not being able to walk home if it gets too much. x' there are going to be around 80-100 people there, many of which are complete strangers. And to top it off, I'm going to be fucking best man.. ;u; so I'll be standing up at the front with my dad the whole time..

I know this probably sounds pathetic to most people, but even people without anxiety disorders would be nervous doing this kind of thing; and people that have anxiety disorders will definitely understand. ;-; And I'm going to be wearing a suit and shit! A SUIT!! I spend most of my days in a long baggy jumper and boxers. ;-;

There are probably going to be people that tell me to 'man up', and that life isn't ever going to be easy, but guess what? That doesn't help.


Sooo... I don't really know if there's a point to this. u.u I guess I'm just putting it out there to get some moral support or some shit. XD and maybe by some weird chance, someone here with the same issues has been through the exact same thing? XD

Just think of it as a fun event. Maybe picture other people in their boxers if that helps. You're not the only one that gets nervous. When I speak in front of a class, I have to go pee, then I start shaking, etc. You can do it man!

I use to be like that in school. .-. I did everything to get out of speaking xD thank god I've finished school now.. I missed several years of it anyway. u.u
Thanks though. :3 at least I don't have to do the speech.. someone else is taking care of that. xD

:ha!: I am taking Public Speaking to hopefully get over my fear. Sadly, it hasn't so far...

Awh. Well good luck man! I hope it works out

Thanks man, you too! Good luck with everything, it was great talking to you

I've done it before, it's not bad at all. Most people won't even give a shit about who else is up there besides the bride and the groom. Just go up there and support your dad. If you flake out, you'll feel like a piece of shit in the future and you'll probably make your dad feel bad. Might be harsh but it's true. It will be over in no time, trust me.

I understand your situation slightly however I wasn't as socially anxious as you. Last year I walked my mum down the aisle for her wedding. I get where you're coming from though, when I was 14/15 I was super anxious and socially awkward as you were. I'll start by saying it does get better but you do have to force yourself to try new things and get yourself out there so to speak. If you keep yourself in your little hole you'll remain like that for the rest of your life. You need to just say fuck it and go for it sometimes.

I don't want to go into "if I were you" blah blah blah because I can't put myself in your shoes. However I would remain you that nobody cares about how you look or what you're doing up there. You are not the centre of attention for that day, all eyes will be on your dad and his new wife. Dress well, do your hair and don't look like a weirdo and you'll be absolutely fine, I'm sure of it. You won't regret it.

Thanks for the advice man. I am an awful lot better from what I used to be from getting out and doing stuff, but this is the first time in a very, very long time I've had to stand in front of lots of people. But keeping in mind that nobody will really be looking at me helps an awful lot. xD I don't like eyes being on me.



Bleh, that sucks man >.< well I admire you for being able to do it though! c:
Picturing everyone naked has never really worked for me being bisexual. I can't just look at the men to prevent an 'accidental boner'... X'

I'm back home now! The wedding went really well and I had a sudden confidence boost out of nowhere and managed to ace it ^-^
Thanks for the support guys. c: