Originally posted by Gmote
Tomorrow I'm going to spend a night abroad with a few friends.
One of them is a girl whom I've known for 6 years now. In the past there have been chances for us to be in a relationship but I couldn't see her more than a friend so nothing has happened so far.
Given that tomorrow she's coming with me and my friends [she has never met any of them before] she said that she wanted to sleep with me, meaning that she wanted us to share the same hotel room.
She said "Obviously, we'll sleep together ... "
In the past, I remember sharing the same bed with her, over at her apartment.. but we used to watch TV or work on the computer and play C0D ...
and she thinks it's normal to do it again.
I don't wanna do this again. I mean...I don't feel comfortable about sharing a bed (and a room) with a girl who's not my partner, no matter how close we are as friends.
I don't want to leave her alone and I'm afraid she'll say "I came with/for you and now you're leaving me to go to your other friends?"
How do I respond to this?
Just share the same bed. Don't try and get away from her. Clearly shes in a tough spot; She is in a hotel room, with strangers, and you as her only friend. She isn't shy but scared of all the things that could happen. Every women is scared of sexual abuse. Let her sleep in the same bed as you. If she makes a move turn to her and tell her that you respect her as a beautiful individual and that you don't want to do anything. A little flattery will help.