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I've been talking to this girl for a while, and I'm convinced I really like her. She's just an all around great girl. Shes not a slut, but she has an ex boyfriend who she will occasionally hook up with. She dated him for roughly 2 years. Anyways, 2 weeks ago, she hooked up with him again. They fucked. She thinks she's pregnant, she missed her period, and she took a pregnancy test that says she's pregnant. What should I do?

I've told her I'll be there for her no matter what, and all this other shit prior to this. I can't just go back on that. What should I do? I need to get over her, but I promised her I'd be there for her and care about her. I still want her, and I want a relationship with her, but I don't think I'm going to be able to get over the whole kid thing. Thats just too much for me.

What should I do, and what should I tell her to do? She hasn't told they guy that she thinks she's pregnant, and she doesn't want to. They got in a fight a few months ago, and it led to him beating her. I dont want that to happen to her again, but he needs to know.

She's an atheist, but she's still against abortion. I think that's the best way to go for her, she's too young to have a kid. Her life would be ruined. I feel so bad about all this, even though its not my fault, in any way, shape, or form.

EDIT: Thanks for all your responses. This isnt actually my situation, I thought saying it was mine would get more responses out of direct sympathy. Thanks guys, I told my friend some of your responses.

Let her go, looks like she and her ex boyfriend still have feelings for each other.

I read 95% of that.

I have a daughter and I'm with someone different. She gets on with it though. She never gets involved with her and that's fine by me because I wasn't after someone who would be a step mum to get.

In your case I'd like it go. There's plenty of fish in the sea (even without baby's).
I can only assume you're young, so why stick around for a girl who met up with her ex and had sex with him?

She clearly still has feelings for him as she wouldn't of met him with him.

Don't feel bad bro, you've done nothing wrong at all.

Hope that helps man

Funny thing, same thing has happened to me /: . . . anyways i think you should try and talk her into getting an abortion even tho its wrong and makes me sound like a hypocrite but for a young girl to have a baby is too much. plus i think if she still hooks up with her ex you need to let go of all the feels you have for her, thats what i did. now were just really close friends.

Well if she is pregnant then support her on her decision, don't try to get her to abort, because its not the kids fault, why would he/she deserve to die? He didn't do anything. The other thing is she probably still has feelings for the guy and she wont stop seeing him, and if he beats her again she could loose the baby if pregnant, and if you have feelings for her, then the only things you can really do is Accept her with the child, or if if you cant get over the child thing, then best thing is to not get in a relationship with her, cause if you cant forget it, and you get in a relationship with her every time you see the kid you'll think of the past. But what i would if it was a girl i liked, i would try to keep my feelings, and help her out, be there for her. I wouldn't care how much it hurt but i would do it.

Essentially took the words right out of my mouth.

Word for word?

Very very close to it...

There was a girl in High School, extremely cute and would have gone for her as there was so much about her that I liked... Turned me away when I found out she has a 2 year old boy; I'm about 6 months younger than her. I'm not looking for anything like so for a long time, especially with the fact that I have not yet dated once...

I think it's time to start creating space before you get dragged into even more unwanted feelings.

I see no way she can be with an ex and not have feelings for him. I still have feelings to a degree for the girl who broke up with me 1 week before christmas, she cheated on me and it fucking hurts. I just dont see how she can do anything with an ex and not want to be with him, I'm going to guess and say I'm like you, I care, I genuinely cared about my gf if anything was wrong I wouldn't be happy until she was, I'm guessing this is what you're like with this girl, you want her happy no matter what which is why you are even thinking about trying to help her through this.

I can accept you care, you just need to accept she isnt the best of people, she may seem amazing and lovely but if you offer her yourself to help with this child and all her issues, you will throw away HUGE chunks of your life, which could affect your school grades and all sorts which will then have repercussions later in life.


I can appreciate all you want is advice, when this girl broke up with me, I was left hanging and it broke me down as a person, I was a miserable fuck all of christmas and the one reason I felt happy was I knew she liked my present, 3 days later I found out she cheated on me.....

Do what you feel will be right, but look at all options, what may seem like the best thing to do now, may result in a very poor future. Best of luck (y)