Post: Please help with memorial costs for my mother, PLEASE
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02-09-2017, 07:03 AM
#1
Pichu
PICHU.
PICHU.
She suffered an injury that led to her being admitted to the emergency room. *After several hours she came back home. *She seemed fine besides the pain she was experiencing. *At about 10:30 she decided she wanted to lay down and go to sleep. *My father and i watched over her until about 3 before we fell asleep. *When we woke at about 6, we found my mother had passed.
My mother meant the world to me, I don't have much family, I don't have a lot of friends and I feel as though I've been stripped a piece of my soul.
I am asking for anyone who can help donate to help with however much they can. *If you can't donate, please at the very least share this cause with others.
In the GoFundMe, you will see my father (A former middle-school teacher), my mother, me, my 8 year old brother and my two sisters.
Please, please do help.
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For those of you who have asked for a death certificate, this is the working copy version that they had given: You must login or register to view this content.
Official ones will be coming soon. We've decided to go with cremation and an urn and to hold our own memorial for her among the few family we have left.
I've adjusted the GoFundMe to the amount that was due, I've had to put the amount we owed on credit under my name. I will be leaving the GoFundMe open until the end of the month and then I will be closing it for donations.
To all of those who have helped donate and to all of those I have talked to, I thank you for your generosity and help, your kind words have helped make a difficult time my father and I have been going through easier to handle.
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02-10-2017, 03:17 AM
#11
Pichu
PICHU.
PICHU.
Originally posted by Cryptic
I don't mean to rain on a bad day for you, but could some kind of proof be verified with SENIOR SENIOR staff (by this I mean Admin, and not one of the new ones. A trusted one like Travis).
My father and I talked with the local funeral home in my city and will be getting the death certificate when my mom's body is claimed. Beyond that, I don't know how I can actually show any way that she has passed. I understand anyone's reluctance because to many of you, I am a random stranger on the internet asking for money.
We have not yet written an obituary. One will be written and published through the funeral home, as they assist in the writing of one and the publishing of one in my area. My father has been taking it hard and so has my other family. For the last couple of days it's been a revolving door with family, even those I've never seen, coming to our home. We also have to watch over my brother.
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This is what we were given. I blocked out part of the case number for privacy reasons as well as the officer's direct contact info (email) for their privacy.
We've called on my mother and she appears to not have had life insurance put on herself, she did prior to the divorce but according to my sisters, it appears she removed it to save money... Not happy there. My mom had a spending addiction, OCD and was bipolar, my mother has left my father with about 15k in debts and my 8 year old brother needs corrective mouth surgery which will cost between 40-60k and we're trying to figure out how to even do that considering he is barely able to eat foods like chicken nuggets now. Had to get soups and very very soft food to get him to eat today. The issue such as spending and bipolar are only very recent, the spending came into play when her bipolar got worse and she stopped taking medication for OCD... Her spending cleaned my father's account completely out, so effectively, we've been living off potatoes. I may still be fat but in a few months, I've gone from 350 to 290lbs.
Petition from my father for divorce: You must login or register to view this content.
Included is also the court case, the attorneys are notified but I don't know if the court calendar will update since the case technically is over. My father's attorney stated that because my mother passed, the court's jurisdiction ended and anything dealing with my father is now up to probate. My mother... sadly, did not have a will. Her attorney apparently kept putting it off.
I don't know what else to say or post to show what I am saying is true, I know a death cert would but we have not acquired one yet. I know the only ways to get one is morgue or funeral home for now. For us, to go and get one is hard, emotionally. The funeral home, rather than through the mortuary would be easier for us to handle.
If you still are unsure, I understand why. There is little I can do right now to show you what I am saying is the truth. If you can't donate, I ask that you share at the very least. If you are uncertain, I understand; I'd be the same way too.
The very last recording I have of my mother is her crying in pain that her shoulder and back hurts as we were driving her to the emergency room. Part of my training in school was to record and document and I did so naturally, I turned it off after a couple minutes because she asked me to. I don't want to publicly share because the case with my mother may become criminal against the person who caused her initial injury. I'd be willing to share with you Cryptic if you are uncertain but under very specific conditions.
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My father and I talked with the local funeral home in my city and will be getting the death certificate when my mom's body is claimed. Beyond that, I don't know how I can actually show any way that she has passed. I understand anyone's reluctance because to many of you, I am a random stranger on the internet asking for money.
We have not yet written an obituary. One will be written and published through the funeral home, as they assist in the writing of one and the publishing of one in my area. My father has been taking it hard and so has my other family. For the last couple of days it's been a revolving door with family, even those I've never seen, coming to our home. We also have to watch over my brother.
You must login or register to view this content.
This is what we were given. I blocked out part of the case number for privacy reasons as well as the officer's direct contact info (email) for their privacy.
We've called on my mother and she appears to not have had life insurance put on herself, she did prior to the divorce but according to my sisters, it appears she removed it to save money... Not happy there. My mom had a spending addiction, OCD and was bipolar, my mother has left my father with about 15k in debts and my 8 year old brother needs corrective mouth surgery which will cost between 40-60k and we're trying to figure out how to even do that considering he is barely able to eat foods like chicken nuggets now. Had to get soups and very very soft food to get him to eat today. The issue such as spending and bipolar are only very recent, the spending came into play when her bipolar got worse and she stopped taking medication for OCD... Her spending cleaned my father's account completely out, so effectively, we've been living off potatoes. I may still be fat but in a few months, I've gone from 350 to 290lbs.
Petition from my father for divorce: You must login or register to view this content.
Included is also the court case, the attorneys are notified but I don't know if the court calendar will update since the case technically is over. My father's attorney stated that because my mother passed, the court's jurisdiction ended and anything dealing with my father is now up to probate. My mother... sadly, did not have a will. Her attorney apparently kept putting it off.
I don't know what else to say or post to show what I am saying is true, I know a death cert would but we have not acquired one yet. I know the only ways to get one is morgue or funeral home for now. For us, to go and get one is hard, emotionally. The funeral home, rather than through the mortuary would be easier for us to handle.
If you still are unsure, I understand why. There is little I can do right now to show you what I am saying is the truth. If you can't donate, I ask that you share at the very least. If you are uncertain, I understand; I'd be the same way too.
The very last recording I have of my mother is her crying in pain that her shoulder and back hurts as we were driving her to the emergency room. Part of my training in school was to record and document and I did so naturally, I turned it off after a couple minutes because she asked me to. I don't want to publicly share because the case with my mother may become criminal against the person who caused her initial injury. I'd be willing to share with you Cryptic if you are uncertain but under very specific conditions.
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02-10-2017, 03:22 AM
#12
Pichu
PICHU.
PICHU.
Originally posted by Toke
life insurance? mines 50k and its $15 a month auto taken out of my bank, or is this the pitty us give a money? middle school teachers are union and make ok money should have life insurance...
My father was a middle school teacher, my mother was not. She worked with autistic children as a paraprofessional. Her income was very basic and helped cover health insurance. Due to my dad's medical conditions, he has very high medical bills. He is on disability and his income has been tied up with CALSTRS. He will only be getting a couple thousand a month which will be barely enough to cover basic living conditions since I live in California.
02-10-2017, 03:29 AM
#13
Toke
PC Master Race
Originally posted by Pichu
Originally posted by Cryptic
I don't mean to rain on a bad day for you, but could some kind of proof be verified with SENIOR SENIOR staff (by this I mean Admin, and not one of the new ones. A trusted one like Travis).
My father and I talked with the local funeral home in my city and will be getting the death certificate when my mom's body is claimed. Beyond that, I don't know how I can actually show any way that she has passed. I understand anyone's reluctance because to many of you, I am a random stranger on the internet asking for money.
We have not yet written an obituary. One will be written and published through the funeral home, as they assist in the writing of one and the publishing of one in my area. My father has been taking it hard and so has my other family. For the last couple of days it's been a revolving door with family, even those I've never seen, coming to our home. We also have to watch over my brother.
You must login or register to view this content.
This is what we were given. I blocked out part of the case number for privacy reasons as well as the officer's direct contact info (email) for their privacy.
We've called on my mother and she appears to not have had life insurance put on herself, she did prior to the divorce but according to my sisters, it appears she removed it to save money... Not happy there. My mom had a spending addiction, OCD and was bipolar, my mother has left my father with about 15k in debts and my 8 year old brother needs corrective mouth surgery which will cost between 40-60k and we're trying to figure out how to even do that considering he is barely able to eat foods like chicken nuggets now. Had to get soups and very very soft food to get him to eat today. The issue such as spending and bipolar are only very recent, the spending came into play when her bipolar got worse and she stopped taking medication for OCD... Her spending cleaned my father's account completely out, so effectively, we've been living off potatoes. I may still be fat but in a few months, I've gone from 350 to 290lbs.
Petition from my father for divorce: You must login or register to view this content.
Included is also the court case, the attorneys are notified but I don't know if the court calendar will update since the case technically is over. My father's attorney stated that because my mother passed, the court's jurisdiction ended and anything dealing with my father is now up to probate. My mother... sadly, did not have a will. Her attorney apparently kept putting it off.
I don't know what else to say or post to show what I am saying is true, I know a death cert would but we have not acquired one yet. I know the only ways to get one is morgue or funeral home for now. For us, to go and get one is hard, emotionally. The funeral home, rather than through the mortuary would be easier for us to handle.
If you still are unsure, I understand why. There is little I can do right now to show you what I am saying is the truth. If you can't donate, I ask that you share at the very least. If you are uncertain, I understand; I'd be the same way too.
The very last recording I have of my mother is her crying in pain that her shoulder and back hurts as we were driving her to the emergency room. Part of my training in school was to record and document and I did so naturally, I turned it off after a couple minutes because she asked me to. I don't want to publicly share because the case with my mother may become criminal against the person who caused her initial injury. I'd be willing to share with you Cryptic if you are uncertain but under very specific conditions.
My facebook:
profile.php?id=100011348175240
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My father and I talked with the local funeral home in my city and will be getting the death certificate when my mom's body is claimed. Beyond that, I don't know how I can actually show any way that she has passed. I understand anyone's reluctance because to many of you, I am a random stranger on the internet asking for money.
We have not yet written an obituary. One will be written and published through the funeral home, as they assist in the writing of one and the publishing of one in my area. My father has been taking it hard and so has my other family. For the last couple of days it's been a revolving door with family, even those I've never seen, coming to our home. We also have to watch over my brother.
You must login or register to view this content.
This is what we were given. I blocked out part of the case number for privacy reasons as well as the officer's direct contact info (email) for their privacy.
We've called on my mother and she appears to not have had life insurance put on herself, she did prior to the divorce but according to my sisters, it appears she removed it to save money... Not happy there. My mom had a spending addiction, OCD and was bipolar, my mother has left my father with about 15k in debts and my 8 year old brother needs corrective mouth surgery which will cost between 40-60k and we're trying to figure out how to even do that considering he is barely able to eat foods like chicken nuggets now. Had to get soups and very very soft food to get him to eat today. The issue such as spending and bipolar are only very recent, the spending came into play when her bipolar got worse and she stopped taking medication for OCD... Her spending cleaned my father's account completely out, so effectively, we've been living off potatoes. I may still be fat but in a few months, I've gone from 350 to 290lbs.
Petition from my father for divorce: You must login or register to view this content.
Included is also the court case, the attorneys are notified but I don't know if the court calendar will update since the case technically is over. My father's attorney stated that because my mother passed, the court's jurisdiction ended and anything dealing with my father is now up to probate. My mother... sadly, did not have a will. Her attorney apparently kept putting it off.
I don't know what else to say or post to show what I am saying is true, I know a death cert would but we have not acquired one yet. I know the only ways to get one is morgue or funeral home for now. For us, to go and get one is hard, emotionally. The funeral home, rather than through the mortuary would be easier for us to handle.
If you still are unsure, I understand why. There is little I can do right now to show you what I am saying is the truth. If you can't donate, I ask that you share at the very least. If you are uncertain, I understand; I'd be the same way too.
The very last recording I have of my mother is her crying in pain that her shoulder and back hurts as we were driving her to the emergency room. Part of my training in school was to record and document and I did so naturally, I turned it off after a couple minutes because she asked me to. I don't want to publicly share because the case with my mother may become criminal against the person who caused her initial injury. I'd be willing to share with you Cryptic if you are uncertain but under very specific conditions.
My facebook:
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why do you have a video of your mom crying her shoulder and back hurt?
02-10-2017, 03:30 AM
#14
Pichu
PICHU.
PICHU.
If there is any info that I can provide to help show what I am doing is for what I am saying it is for, I will do my best to provide it. I don't have a lot of friend IRL so my social outreach is basically on places on like this... :/
So far, I've been trying with Twitter, Reddit, Facebook, and well here...
So far, I've been trying with Twitter, Reddit, Facebook, and well here...
02-10-2017, 03:39 AM
#15
Pichu
PICHU.
PICHU.
Originally posted by Toke
Originally posted by Pichu
why do you have a video of your mom crying her shoulder and back hurt?
We had just left to take my mom to the emergency room, police and an ambulance were there. One thing I've been trained with as part of my degree in Criminology is, in part, evidence. The "accident" that resulted in my mom being sent to the emergency room is because my abusive sister attempted to take my brother away from my mother and my mom tried to stop her. My mom had opened the car door, reached in and tried to get my brother. My sister drove in reverse and the door pushed against a side wall of drive way (one of those pillars) and it had crushed in on my mom. My sister drove forward and then attempted to drive back to clear it while my mom was still trying to get my brother.
From that incident, less than 12 hours later my mom passed away. The medical facility we went to refuses to tell us if they did a CT scan, or something of the sort, to check for internal bleeding due to trauma.
My sister has had the police called on her before and has a major history of violence but gets away with it each time... (most the time the family member refuses to press charges or they downplay the incident so an arrest doesn't take place... even when they themselves were the one that called).
In the last 8 months, a lot has happened with my family and the fact of recording has cleared us of accusations as well as allow us to begin legal proceedings and discussion for suits against certain individuals, I can't say who for the time being.
It's morbid I know, but it's something that may later be used against my sister since the police have been swinging back and forth with the issue on Sunday as being accidental or not. I did not expect my mom to pass, I only recorded to show the state she was in and that she in fact was hurt and was not "faking it" as my sister was claiming.
As for the internal bleeding, the coroner stated that when the blood test comes back, he will be finishing his report on my mother and will release it to my father. We will know then whether or not she had internal bleeding.
02-10-2017, 03:50 AM
#16
Pichu
PICHU.
PICHU.
Originally posted by PhucedMODZ
im sorry to hear about your mum bro, id be more than happy to help, unfortionatly i have no money at the moment, im terrably sorry, keep your head up mate, she will be looking over you hoping you the best of luck with your life,
iv been through the same, my dad died when i was young, also recently, i lost my daughter aswell, so i know how you feel bro
iv been through the same, my dad died when i was young, also recently, i lost my daughter aswell, so i know how you feel bro
Thank you, and it is fine. If you don't mind spreading the word, that is more than helpful. I've been doing my best to keep my head up, it's been in a constant fog and feels like I have a nonstop migraine. What I am most worried about is my brother, it's hard hearing him ask where "mom" or "mommy" is... My parents were separated so on Tuesday and Friday-Sunday's, he was with my mom... this is the first full week he'll be spending with us since June of 2016. Right now he is asking if he can visit mom in heaven to play Skylanders... :/
I don't think the whole situation has sunk in for him yet. My dad and I and his school got together today to discuss how to handle this with him. The school psychologist is going to be setting something up to help us break the news to him and for him to understand and cope with what happened, especially since he's asking more and more... :/
02-10-2017, 04:25 AM
#18
Pichu
PICHU.
PICHU.
Originally posted by Outsider
So sorry to hear this man. I will donate what I can! This is in the notice now, but it still pains me to hear 
hope the family is staying strongh
hope the family is staying strongh
Thank you, what happened 8 months ago divided my family and we are slowly being brought back together. We are trying our best to stay strong through this difficult time. My father and I are doing our best to work with my little brother as it will hit him soon enough regarding what happened.
Originally posted by Frog
Consider cremation and save yourself a lot of trouble.
My mom did not want to be cremated if she didn't have to. There was 1 plot left and it's in an area where I live where a majority of my family who have passed is buried. It was given to my father and my parents agreed to be buried together using that plot. It would have been a vertical burial where they dig deeper and their caskets lay on top of one another.
The land contains a couple generations of my family, which is why she wanted to be buried. If we can't afford to perform the burial, we will be cremating but we do still want to hold a viewing before cremation.
02-10-2017, 05:17 AM
#19
Frosty
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Originally posted by Pichu
Thank you, what happened 8 months ago divided my family and we are slowly being brought back together. We are trying our best to stay strong through this difficult time. My father and I are doing our best to work with my little brother as it will hit him soon enough regarding what happened.
My mom did not want to be cremated if she didn't have to. There was 1 plot left and it's in an area where I live where a majority of my family who have passed is buried. It was given to my father and my parents agreed to be buried together using that plot. It would have been a vertical burial where they dig deeper and their caskets lay on top of one another.
The land contains a couple generations of my family, which is why she wanted to be buried. If we can't afford to perform the burial, we will be cremating but we do still want to hold a viewing before cremation.
My mom did not want to be cremated if she didn't have to. There was 1 plot left and it's in an area where I live where a majority of my family who have passed is buried. It was given to my father and my parents agreed to be buried together using that plot. It would have been a vertical burial where they dig deeper and their caskets lay on top of one another.
The land contains a couple generations of my family, which is why she wanted to be buried. If we can't afford to perform the burial, we will be cremating but we do still want to hold a viewing before cremation.
That's understandable. Lot of my paternal family is buried in South Carolina, whilst my maternal grandparents were cremated and buried in Florida. Didn't even know vertical burial was a thing, but is your sister being charged with involuntary manslaughter?
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