(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); I understand I have had little to do with the site in the past couple years but I am desperate for help. *I am asking for any help and assistance with funeral cost for my mother who passed away on February 6th.

She suffered an injury that led to her being admitted to the emergency room. *After several hours she came back home. *She seemed fine besides the pain she was experiencing. *At about 10:30 she decided she wanted to lay down and go to sleep. *My father and i watched over her until about 3 before we fell asleep. *When we woke at about 6, we found my mother had passed.

My mother meant the world to me, I don't have much family, I don't have a lot of friends and I feel as though I've been stripped a piece of my soul.

I am asking for anyone who can help donate to help with however much they can. *If you can't donate, please at the very least share this cause with others.

In the GoFundMe, you will see my father (A former middle-school teacher), my mother, me, my 8 year old brother and my two sisters.

Please, please do help.

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Official ones will be coming soon. We've decided to go with cremation and an urn and to hold our own memorial for her among the few family we have left.

I've adjusted the GoFundMe to the amount that was due, I've had to put the amount we owed on credit under my name. I will be leaving the GoFundMe open until the end of the month and then I will be closing it for donations.

To all of those who have helped donate and to all of those I have talked to, I thank you for your generosity and help, your kind words have helped make a difficult time my father and I have been going through easier to handle.

Vertical burial is optional and isn't always available. It costs a bit extra to do. Where I live, the service that manages the plot will do it but I know others will not. Burial grounds are pretty much full around where I am, most were bought up a few decades ago and are being passed through families. The plot being used is the last one that our family was able to afford back when they purchased the spots.

As for my sister, I don't know. Coroner report won't be out for 4-6 weeks and the police will have to look at the circumstance. I would hate to see my sister go to prison but if she didn't pull her crap again, I'd still have my mom. :/

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I talked with the funeral home today, they are looking into reducing the cost of the funeral by about 5-6k because of the circumstance that led to my mom's passing. They have to get approval because it's a fund for victims of violent crimes.

Most funeral homes will allow you to set up an affordable weekly/monthly payment plan. Perhaps that's something you can ask for. It'll allow you to give your mother what she wanted, which will help you in your healing process, while easing the financial pressure.

#rip <3

My condolences

I'll be able to donate some as soon as I get paid. I'm really sorry for your loss... Please be safe and hopefully everything will be ok in the end.

My father and I have been talking and discussing and may be going with just a viewing for the family (we won't attend because we don't our last memories seeing something that resembles what we call a "plastic doll". We want our memories to be just of her and how we saw her, forgetting the morning we found her... :/

We are talking about holding a viewing, having a service for her in a local church and having her cremated soon after. The cost will be more affordable and about 4,000 where we live. I have a shit family who won't drop a cent to help but will yell at my father and I for not wanting to put ourselves in debt to hold a full funeral. We've asked family to assist and they'd rather drive off in their expensive ass vehicles and drop hundreds on jewelry rather than help pay for something for their daughter, sister, or cousin...

To those helping, every penny helps immensely. My father and I have begun discussing leaving California once my brother finishes this school year and and probate ends. Part of this reason is because of how horrible my family is, part of this is because the home we are in is a reminder of my mom and it's been the hardest week with everything acting as a reminder of her, and partly because it would give us a fresh clean start. :/

Tomorrow, my father and I will be claiming my mother and will be beginning the process with the funeral home. :/

Once again, to all here I thank you for you her help and generosity. To those who have talked to me privately, I thank you again, your words mean a lot and have helped me with getting through this difficult time.

that plastic doll is a insult to morticians, and from the viewings i've been to as long as it wasn't real carnage like they where shot or in a really bad car accident they usually look pretty good, and you should go just incase one day you may regret not seeing her one last time

It's something I've been thinking hard about and the last two viewing I had gone to, it all felt the same. That what I was viewing was the person I remember, the person I grew up and loved. It was harder to see them laying there, all prepared, than to remember them in memory, through video and photographs. When the time comes, I'll make my decision, right now; I don't think I can and don't think I want to. I've begun to forget how my mom's face looked from Monday morning. My father and I have been going through a lot of family pictures and the memories I see of her there is how I want to remember her.

I'm sorry for you loss.
A little bit of my personal experience with something like this in case you wanted to maybe relate:

My best friend was fatally shot March 14th, 2016. I and a couple of his other good friends hand dug his grave for him, out of respect. I was asked to be a pallbearer and to cover the casket up once they lowered it into the grave. I accepted this with honor. However, when the day came to do all of this, I wasn't man enough to do it. I backed out and didn't even go to his funeral. The friends that helped me dig his grave all pretty much agreed that they weren't going to look in the casket (he was shot in the chest with a shotgun) because we wanted to remember him as we did at the time. However, when the day came, I'm pretty sure we all looked in that casket and what we saw was not our best friend. It resembled him, but it was not him. After I saw him in that casket, I completely broke moreso than I had ever done before. I respectfully told his grandmother and my friends that I couldn't be a pallbearer anymore and there's no way that I could throw dirt on top of him. I left after the wake and went home. I regret looking in that casket. I regret not being a pallbearer. I regret not going to the funeral. I regret not helping cover him up.

TL; DR: Sometimes people in caskets don't resemble who they were as you knew them, so beware. In my case, I would have much rather not looked in that casket. Contrary to what someone said earlier that you might regret not looking in the casket, you actually might regret looking in it if you do.