(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Well I felt the need to write this thread because it probably applies to most of us here and recently someone in my area got in trouble for having sex with someone underage. It was on his eighteenth birthday and he was out with his girlfriend, she's fourteen (I know right, gag central). He was going out with his GF for a long time and from what I hear he genuinely loved her, lets just assume he did. They were out drinking and went back to the GF's house and one thing led to another and they ended up having sex. During sex the GF's mother walked in and caught them and she wasn't impressed to say the least! The mother immediately rang the police and reported the BF as a rapist (it's technically statutory rape as anyone under 17 in Ireland cannot give sexual consent). To make matters worse the mother is forcing the GF to say her boyfriend had sex against her will, which was untrue as far as I know.

So how would you feel in this situation? Try to focus on all sides of the story. How would you feel as the boyfriend, more than likely about to face a jail sentence, your name on a sex offenders register and a break-up with the girl you love (the break-up is what I predict will happen).

How would you feel as the girlfriend? You're about to lose the person you love for a long time, probably forced not to see them again and being put under huge amounts of pressure to lie in court.

How would you feel as the girlfriend's mother? You just caught your little baby in bed with someone far older than her, you have the power to make his life a misery, does he really deserve that?

How would you feel as the boyfriend's parents? Your son is just eighteen, his life is only beginning and now he is abut to be weighed down. Would you try and get him out of the country, would you threaten the girlfriend's mother?

It's quite a sticky situation and for all of you who think the law is the law so let him have it here is something else to consider. Nature intends us to be sexually active at a young age(from when girls have their first periods and boys can produce sperm), that's a fact you can't ignore. Can you blame these two horny, drunk teens for having sex when every fiber of their bodies is telling them to, after all they are in love.

I think we can get a good debate going on this, there are a lot of things to consider and this situation will apply to most of us so let me know how you feel.

EDIT: By the way, don't just reply to this situation, how do you feel about underage sex in general? Does age really matter when you're in love? Have you had underage sex and did it have a negative or positive effect on your life? Just no more fúcking discussions on whether god is real or not (unless they are somewhat intelligent and add to the thread in some way). Kthanx.

-My reply to Needa, it may tie up some loose ends:

Originally posted by another user

Sorry Needa but most of those questions are going to have to stay unanswered because I don't know the people involved personally, I don't even know anyone who knows them personally to be honest. I just thought this was an interesting subject that would get a bit of a discussion going, you would be surprised how often this kind of thing happens, in Ireland at least.

Anyways on to your questions, I believe they were together for two/three months. I'm not sure if this was their first time having sex with one another, I think the boyfriend had sex before but I'm not sure about the girlfriend. I really can't tell you if the mother was trying to break them up before this, I can tell you, though, that the boyfriend is a bit of an asshole.

As for the middle schooler and high schooler thing they were both in the same school. In Ireland teens from the ages 12-18 go to the same secondary level school, I understand that as an American this might seem odd but that's just the system we have. How did they meet? Your guess is as good as mine, maybe a poke on facebook lead to a conversation and an exchanging of numbers, maybe a friend introduced them, to be honest I don't think it's that relevant to the situation but I can see why you find the story questionable with my hazy details. I'll try to find out more but don't hold your breath.

She isn't claiming physical rape, the mother is forcing her to. The mother obviously wasn't happy seeing her daughter growing up too quick so she just wants the boyfriend to be gone as long as possible, which is understandable. Although it's extremely unfair and dishonest because, as far as I know, the girlfriend intended to have sex.

I would definitely agree with your last statement but when you're young, drunk and in love it's hard to think clearly. Teens do stupid and impulsive things all the time so saying that the boyfriend was exceptionally stupid would be unfair I think.

I don't believe what either of them did was right. I believe in sex after marriage.

I am a strong believer in sex before marriage

Ah I was just waiting for someone to enter the thread who has a more conservative view on sex. Why do you think they (or even all people) shouldn't have sex before marriage, do you believe it because your parents told you to? As humans we just want to spread our seed as much as possible, that's just a natural urge, I don't believe you should ignore it because it simply isn't wrong.

Anyways post back with something a bit longer, I would love to hear your point of view.

Oh, don't get me wrong. I crave sex and am constantly thinking about it. It's my religion, (and don't say they that thats all or that it's my parents chosen for me) I believe in saving yourself for the one you are bonded to, saving your self for that person. If you do it before, and you break up, then it was pointless. Sorry it's not super long, I would write more but I'm in class.

Then you'd probably be better off "relieving" yourself sooner rather than later... safely, of course.



So you can't think for yourself, okay.



And you also can't refute the claim that you can't think for yourself so you had to put that little note in there, sure.



There's no such thing as soul mates and every one of us has millions of potentially successful mates. Don't kid yourself. And for that reason, saving yourself is pointless.



Pointless? There are two kinds of sex- one is intimate, and one is for pleasure. There's no harm in doing the latter prior to meeting someone you care for greatly provided you take the necessary safety precautions.

Your argument is beyond flawed.

My argument is not flawed, my argument is my opinion. You and me have different opinions, I didn't want to argue, jst voice my opinion.

I think the biggest person at fault here was the mother. She shouldn't have reacted in such a drastic way as calling the cops, and she shouldn't force her child to say anything. The daughter should be able to voice herself honestly -- after all, isn't that the purpose of court? But that doesn't mean the boyfriend or girlfriend weren't stupid. The girlfriend was short sighted, and as usual in most relationships with teenagers with several years of seperation: the boyfriend was probably just in it to get some pussy, and the girl thought she had a keeper. The girl should have seen this coming. The boyfriend shouldn't have gotten her drunk or even tried to have sex with her even though the law pointed the other way. Nobody in that situation is clean, but it shouldn't be as big of a deal as it is.

Then your opinion is flawed.

You can't just stick your fingers in your ears and play about with words to escape the reality that your opinion, belief, argument, whatever is ludicrously flawed.

Show some intellectual integrity and backup your beliefs or admit that they're flawed.

Dude, I'm 14. I don't give a crap what other people think. I have an opinion and you can't flaw it. Will see after we die who is right. So okay, good day.