(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); I've never ever been very social. I hardly ever spoke in school even to the teachers. In kindergarten children would avoid me because I was so silent and I was eventually sent to a social worker that i've had to go to for six years. I hardly ever even talk to my parents. I am now thirteen and I go to middle school, but things are still the same. I wouldn't necessarily say i'm depressed, but yes I am sad a lot inside. The most words I usually say in a day are about 10 although I speak very fluent with a well built vocabulary. When people talk to me I have no idea on what I should say and when I do say something i'm afraid of people judging me. When I say something people stare at me as if it's a miracle of some sort and I feel as though everyone staring at me....I then get really embarrassed, hot, and red in the face. Is there anything I can do or perhaps any pills I can take? I've thought about trying (cannabis) weed...(just once every week or so), since everyone I know is doing it. I'm really smart for my age (as most people say) and adept to learning. I'm 13, studying mathematics, physics, programming, and hardware engineering...will something like weed really effect me in a bad way? I just want to be more sociable and more able to talk to people...i'm sick of being an outcast to people. I just want to be happy and more capable of making friends. The most i've ever had were 3 or 5 and I get really lonely.

I don't really agree with you on that. Pot isn't a gate way drug IMO.

Be careful. Weed can be good in moderation but when you get into it you will want more and more believe me on that. The second you feel as though you want or feel the need for the high stop don't give in to the addiction it will just make things worse down the road trying to stop. You will have way worse withdrawals.

In fact I used to feel the same way but think about what I am about to say for a second. If you smoke pot you will love the high so you continue smoking the drug, the more you smoke it the more your body builds up tolerance against the drug. This means you will need more of the drug to get the same high. Eventually you will want a better high as you feel it isn't doing the job anymore. So in turn you do worse drugs such as cocaine and meth.

Well. At the age of 13 I don't see Weed being the answer to the question. But if you really feel the need to try it then do whatever you think is best for you.As you get older you should become more socialy active. I hope your problems fix themselves.

Be who you want to be. However i do find it pretty serious if you dont even talk to your family members. And if a social worker isnt helping. Then i suggest just getting out there. You say you have about 3-5 mates. Thats all you will need. Your 13. You dont need to have tons of mates everywhere, you usually end up going seperate paths after high school is finished. I know i have. Only people i speak to is about 3-5 people my self.

Do not take drugs. Bad idea. your a smart kid. As you say, People like someone with brains. Try apply that more to the other geeks at school. Its not that hard to fall into a crowd. Actually its what i did. Found my self a couple of people that like the same as i do. It was very easy to talk to them aswell. Soon after i builded up my confidence. and started hanging with some other people from my primary school. I thought they never liked me, cause i was a geek. But i found out, they actually liked me all this time.

I hope my story says something to you. I could ramble on for ages.. But i would take up the size of the whole board of ngu. Bascailly.. It will get better.. Sometimes you just gotta forget everything and just go with someone. Find a guy that likes programming and ask him what he likes to use. It can progress from there, into a new best friend. Never know.. Two of you could go far.. Maybe a business.

Now, whatever you do, don't do drugs. It probably won't help, and it'll absolutely hurt you. If anything, get professional counseling. Talk to you parents (even if just briefly) and request to see a mental health professional. They can help you through therapy (which may include drugs, and depending where you live, possibly even marijuana).

I'm a lot like you. I never talked to many people, and when I did it was often very awkward. I felt like I didn't know what to say. When I did know what to say, I would somehow become confused and be unable to respond.

I wish I could give you some sort of success story, but, to be honest, I still get flustered. I'm still a touch socially awkward. But I've made progress. I can talk to people, even those who I've never met before, or people who are naturally intimidating. What I've found is that you have to become comfortable and accepting of yourself.

You might think you're comfortable in your own skin, but you're most likely not (in fact, I'd say that most people your age are not). The secret to this is to start being who you want to be, and then find people similar to you. When I was at my peak awkwardness, I dressed in sweatpants or long athletic pants (they were actually very comfortable) and a large, thick jacket (and I used it as a barrier from the world). I wore it pretty much everywhere. I never talked and avoided everyone. I was absolutely miserable. Everyday I saw people living the life I wanted to live. One day, I decided to turn it around. I was switching from middle school to high school, so it seemed like a great time to make a change. I bought new, clean, "outgoing" clothes (which consisted of mostly shorts and jeans and T-shirts at the time; now I dress mostly in dark, clean denim jeans and a polo shirt - if you dress like an adult, you get to meet nice, mature people). That's my first recommendation: dress for what you want to be. A nerd (someone interested in sciences) doesn't need to dress with long hair, dark clothing, and what not. In fact, the most successful nerds dress for success.

The second step is to broadcast yourself. If someone asks you what you're interested in, tell them. And actively pursue your interests. By dressing nice and clean and by showing people your interests, you'll find people who share your interests and are willing to be around you. These are people who are easy to talk to because you have something to talk about, and they'll genuinely want to talk to you - and you'll genuinely want to talk to them. When you get to college, it'll be even easier. I'm friends almost strictly with math majors, with the exception of one economics, one computer science, one business, and a biochemical engineering major. Also, remember that you don't need a ton of friends. I'd say I have eight good friends. If you can build a nice core of friends, you'll have a great support system.

Look, the drugs thing, I wouldn't do it. May not seem like it, but at a young age, you are more likely to fall into the wrong crowd of kids.

I used to be like you, about 9th grade is when I started gaining some more friends, I was weird and shy yet very smart, I played video games alone all the time because I really didn't have any other friends to hang out with.

All I can say is, if you are looking for friends, turn to your peers in class and crack a joke, start talking to them, maybe discuss some school at first and find a common interest. Befriending people might be slow but when you make 1 or 2 friends, start hanging with them and eventually you will be friends with that group. That group is now a group of people you know who you can use to expand your social life with and be able to go up to and talk to while they are talking to others to get yourself even more known.

(I have a large amount of people that know me, I could walk up to a lot of people and hold conversations but 2 years ago, I didn't know 4/5 of the people I know today because I didn't talk to anyone, I stayed pulled in and I was getting out of 4 years of hell (Family issues). It's slow but if you keep at it and just chat, you will gain friends, people are accepting)

I'm still weird, (even socially awkward) but every person says that once the ice was broken that I am fun to talk to, nerdy and nice. I get introduced to new people quite a bit.

Just keep at it. Stay away from the drugs and just keep a smile of your face. You will meet people who will accept you and if they don't, they are not good friends to start out anyways.

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I'm still fighting this, I have to get comfortable or be around people I know to help me break the ice and then that's when I come out. If it's me and a person I don't know, it's still very hard but I find ways.

I am still socially awkward but it's not the worse thing in the world.

The hardest thing I find is talking to girls still, I'm almost 18. I find myself very comfortable around people I know but girls I have an interest in, who are cute, or I don't know, that's where things get tough for myself, finding what to say is hard.

Originally posted by another user

You might think you're comfortable in your own skin, but you're most likely not (in fact, I'd say that most people your age are not). The secret to this is to start being who you want to be, and then find people similar to you. When I was at my peak awkwardness, I dressed in sweatpants or long athletic pants (they were actually very comfortable) and a large, thick jacket (and I used it as a barrier from the world). I wore it pretty much everywhere. I never talked and avoided everyone. I was absolutely miserable. Everyday I saw people living the life I wanted to live.

Described me until about 11th grade.

All you need to do as said, is to find a few people, look for someone who is like you that doesn't talk as much, or do stuff in groups outside of school, anything that will get you closer to other people and you will get more confident, and when you are can try and meet girls, hang with them, meet other friends and then you're set, if you are close to someone tell them, get support, it isn't awkward at all, I've spoken to heaps of people about my low times and its actually the best feeling to let it out.
If you can say all this here you can say it to someone in person, or at least over Facebook/Skype or whatever network you use to communicate.
As said, don't do drugs, maybe drink when you're 16 and others are when you're at a party or something, and as logic would be, be friends with as many people as possible, don't give people a reason to dislike you because trust me, it comes back to haunt you

you might be better off talking to your doctor, or researching yourself, about xanax

Well i approach life knowing with a viewpoint that I will do whatever to make myself happy. I know that may sound selfish but i mean it in a way where I won't let things hold me back. I live life to enjoy it and if making friends isn't your thing, you don't have to force yourself to be accepted into society