Post: I need help with my social issues can anyone help?
06-03-2012, 04:33 AM #1
caleb01
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(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); I've never ever been very social. I hardly ever spoke in school even to the teachers. In kindergarten children would avoid me because I was so silent and I was eventually sent to a social worker that i've had to go to for six years. I hardly ever even talk to my parents. I am now thirteen and I go to middle school, but things are still the same. I wouldn't necessarily say i'm depressed, but yes I am sad a lot inside. The most words I usually say in a day are about 10 although I speak very fluent with a well built vocabulary. When people talk to me I have no idea on what I should say and when I do say something i'm afraid of people judging me. When I say something people stare at me as if it's a miracle of some sort and I feel as though everyone staring at me....I then get really embarrassed, hot, and red in the face. Is there anything I can do or perhaps any pills I can take? I've thought about trying (cannabis) weed...(just once every week or so), since everyone I know is doing it. I'm really smart for my age (as most people say) and adept to learning. I'm 13, studying mathematics, physics, programming, and hardware engineering...will something like weed really effect me in a bad way? I just want to be more sociable and more able to talk to people...i'm sick of being an outcast to people. I just want to be happy and more capable of making friends. The most i've ever had were 3 or 5 and I get really lonely.
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MelissaMollin
07-11-2012, 10:12 AM #47
Originally posted by Clutch
The definition of drug; "You must login or register to view this content."

Weed does this. End of discussion.


so does soda :derp:

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07-11-2012, 10:33 AM #48
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Originally posted by caleb01 View Post
I've never ever been very social. I hardly ever spoke in school even to the teachers. In kindergarten children would avoid me because I was so silent and I was eventually sent to a social worker that i've had to go to for six years. I hardly ever even talk to my parents. I am now thirteen and I go to middle school, but things are still the same. I wouldn't necessarily say i'm depressed, but yes I am sad a lot inside. The most words I usually say in a day are about 10 although I speak very fluent with a well built vocabulary. When people talk to me I have no idea on what I should say and when I do say something i'm afraid of people judging me. When I say something people stare at me as if it's a miracle of some sort and I feel as though everyone staring at me....I then get really embarrassed, hot, and red in the face. Is there anything I can do or perhaps any pills I can take? I've thought about trying (cannabis) weed...(just once every week or so), since everyone I know is doing it. I'm really smart for my age (as most people say) and adept to learning. I'm 13, studying mathematics, physics, programming, and hardware engineering...will something like weed really effect me in a bad way? I just want to be more sociable and more able to talk to people...i'm sick of being an outcast to people. I just want to be happy and more capable of making friends. The most i've ever had were 3 or 5 and I get really lonely.

I wouldn't recommend taking any drugs (Weed is a form of a drug, as is caffeine, and any energy drink). Then all your doing is being someone else for others, and not yourself. Kids can be harsh :/, if you want to work on socializing join a club, sport, or some type of activity with others. This will help you make friends with others who have similar interests.

As for the shyness, it's hard. Either two things will happen, one you may one day just break through the shyness (more rare), or you'll need to take the initiative. I ended up taking speech and debate in order to become a better speaker in public. Was I frightened? Hell yes, but I took it in order to improve my speaking abilities. To be honest, I get a little more clammy hands and such since I haven't participated for about 4 months now (off season), but nonetheless it was great. I made friends, became a better speaker, and had fun.

I'm not going to compare myself to you, because you are you, and I am myself. People are different, and I understand that. But little harm could come from branching out. Anyways, I hope you resolve the problem, and don't require drugs or anything of that nature to do it.

Edit: One thing I will say though. If you actually feel like you may have depression, I'm not telling you to avoid taking any medications, but if the sadness/depression, is more emotionally induced, just be happy, do what you love, be social, branch out, and have fun :p

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07-11-2012, 10:56 AM #49
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Originally posted by GAMER View Post
so does soda :derp:


What does soda do to alter bodily function in a significant way?
I don't think it fucks up your brain now does it?

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07-11-2012, 11:19 AM #50
Originally posted by Groudon View Post
What does soda do to alter bodily function in a significant way?
I don't think it fucks up your brain now does it?


The chemicals inside the soda do. Too much can leave you feeling depressed, drowsy, etc.

and my point wasn't literal. I'm saying it's not bad for you and shouldn't be classified as a "drug" such as pcp, coke, etc.

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Originally posted by Just4Hax View Post
I wouldn't recommend taking any drugs (Weed is a form of a drug, as is caffeine, and any energy drink). Then all your doing is being someone else for others, and not yourself. Kids can be harsh :/, if you want to work on socializing join a club, sport, or some type of activity with others. This will help you make friends with others who have similar interests.

As for the shyness, it's hard. Either two things will happen, one you may one day just break through the shyness (more rare), or you'll need to take the initiative. I ended up taking speech and debate in order to become a better speaker in public. Was I frightened? Hell yes, but I took it in order to improve my speaking abilities. To be honest, I get a little more clammy hands and such since I haven't participated for about 4 months now (off season), but nonetheless it was great. I made friends, became a better speaker, and had fun.

I'm not going to compare myself to you, because you are you, and I am myself. People are different, and I understand that. But little harm could come from branching out. Anyways, I hope you resolve the problem, and don't require drugs or anything of that nature to do it.

Edit: One thing I will say though. If you actually feel like you may have depression, I'm not telling you to avoid taking any medications, but if the sadness/depression, is more emotionally induced, just be happy, do what you love, be social, branch out, and have fun :p


Well said :y:

@OP:
What do you like to do? Maybe you can find friends that like to do the same things as you do. Don't try to make yourself fit in.. then they arn't real friends. I usually find friends on accident, and I don't look for em. It'll come naturally if you socialize.

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07-11-2012, 03:04 PM #51
Hey, First of all, as everyone already said to you, don't do drugs .. it just gonna cause you more pain and depression.. What you need to do is don't get so worried about you being not able to talk too much, some people are just not so talkative as the others are, is just normal being quiet.. You dont need to force being something that you are not... And you are a teen.. when i was your age, i used to be very quiet too... and i didn't like to open myself to anybody.. then... after i was 15, things started to change.. i became more talkative and able to trust myself to show my opinion to others to see.,.. also able to make more friends etc... Anyway, if you feel like this is really bugging you that much, try to find professional help, might you can improve this by making therapy or something... Just dont worry too much because you are young and this going to improve with age, believe me.

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caleb01
07-13-2012, 08:13 AM #52
for social You must login or register to view this content. network... be well to others... be cooperative and helping and one thing in this era you have to understand that dont expect ore from others. just chill

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