(adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); I will post my opinion later; but am curious with this forums ideals on marriage.

I think this guy lives in the suburbs or something, because im just loling at everyone with a "You need to get married to have a nice life" mentality.

That is hilarious!

I wasn't disagreeing with him only stating my opinion further, no I did not grow up in a religious family at all, my mom is jewish my dad is Baptist. I was born into Judaism although I have never studied a religion, gone to a church on any sort of regular basis or anything of such. I have more atheistic views if anything although in America from what I have exposed to it't just that everybody is married basically and if your not married when you have a kid which usually if you have a kid here and your not married it's on accident then they rush to get married. Europe could be very different. I have no experience there, never been although I would love to but I can tell you here it's a hell of a lot more than 50/50 probably 9/10 parents who have kids are married.

Don't take my responses the wrong way, I'm not arguing with people as I don't think theres any point to start an argument but just furthering my opinion. But I can't disagree that marriage is getting less and less common at all because it is I mean if you look about 400 years ago everybody got married and usually women got married around 13 or 14 or so it has changed a lot throughout history now it is lower than ever but where I live it's not even close to 50/50.

I can see where your coming from, and yes places like that do exist, but we were talking about the choice, not places where marriage is frequented or used for economic or social status...

See, i get what you're saying and i guess i was right, you are from a community where everyone is married. But it is the greatest man in that community who breaks tradition and makes his own history. Rather than conforming to the pressures of society and the community, or what is seen as 'normal'.

Honestly thiugh, like i said, if someome wants to get married then fair enough. But it is something that is a choice, and if anyone thinks unmarried couples have less right to raise kids, or are inferior at raising them, they are clearly delusional. A piece of paper does not make you any better with kids, nor does it make you a better person or a better partner.

The way I see it, everyone has their opinion, and every relationship is different.
I've been with my girlfriend for two and a half years and the topic of marriage is
something we discuss regularly. Considering we have such a deep love for one another
(and I'm not saying it to be smug or arrogant) that marriage is something we're looking
forward to very much.

Obviously after college and everything we plan on settling down, but the way someone
looks upon marriage is all dependent on their own opinions. Same thing with kids.
My girlfriend and I have discussed having kids quite often and it's always been back and
forth between yes and no. Not so much arguing among one another, but rather if we
want to spend our time just by ourselves (i.e: Traveling, having fun, etc.) or raising a
family and committing to being parents.

I will say one thing though, make sure you love the way you are in the relationship. Not just
if you love your significant other as well. You've gotta be happy before anyone else, and if you
don't feel that way, then it may not be the best option for you to get married. I fortunately
have the pleasure of having a terrific woman at my side, so there's no doubts in my mind.

Lucky guy, but this is what i was talking about, having absolutely no doubt in your mind, being proud of it, and not for the damn social aspect, its about you and your partner, and you seem like you think about them as well whenever you make a decision, and so... you are a very settled person.

This is exactly what it feels like. Of course I still worry about her all the time. Not because I don't
trust her, but because there are people in the world that I don't trust. However, you have said
it exactly right; I am indeed a very settled person. It makes life a little better knowing I have something
to look forward to after college.

why do you need to waste all the money on a big fancy wedding, you dont need to get married to show how inlove you are with eachother, but to some people that might be the way they like to show eachother they love eachother and to try and show the other person that they will stick by their side for the rest of their life and end up in a sloppy love story but eh.. fuck all that shit and just get down to business, dont worry about all the fancy malarky!

it depends on what you benefit from it