Post: Dealing with her ex
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04-14-2015, 01:22 PM
#1
Sempiternal
Previously uG~ Wounded
here's the problem. I'm not by any means a fighter. and this guy is. he's been cautioned by police for assault and is a pretty hard guy. I'm not sure how to deal with this guy. any advice?
04-15-2015, 07:40 AM
#20
Elleusive
I’m too L33T
Originally posted by Sempiternal
... any advice?
Steer clear and keep careful.
Why she found the need to explain to her ex, anything about her current relationship status, is beyond me. She had the perfect opportunity to de-escalate, but lit his fuse instead. She needs to stop giving him a reason to flex his muscles. The change begins with her and how she responds.
Answering questions that are none of his business gives the guy a sense of entitlement. You cut them short, not build them up. And then it's your time to flex.
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04-15-2015, 11:12 AM
#23
Jean Yuss
Keeper
Originally posted by Exploited
Maybe have HER explain to him shes done with him and he needs to leave you both alone ...or this seems like its gunna get ugly
(Dont see why shes still texting with her ex)
(Dont see why shes still texting with her ex)
Originally posted by Sempiternal
...I dont think carrying a weapon is the best idea.
While going to the cops might help if anything happens and he has to be arrested, it's pretty much an empty gesture.
I agree with the advice to basically ignore it.
Except for the talking it over with the GF. If she is still texting the dude, you are with the wrong woman, trust...
04-15-2015, 12:40 PM
#24
Sempiternal
Previously uG~ Wounded
Originally posted by Rath
Well, it's not necessarily the fact that he carried a weapon, but possibly the political ideology of the state in which he resided at the time. If you live in a state where you can get a concealed carry permit and you're old enough, get it. Then buy a nice pistol, preferably one you like, and isn't overly expensive, and has affordable ammo. Usually 9mm and .45 ACP fall into this category. You'll definitely want to get a more defensive round, I'd recommend Hydra-Shoks. Granted this would be for a worse case scenario, if no matter how hard you try, you cannot manage to go anywhere without being in fear of your life etc.
Restraining orders can only do so much, if this guy is as much as an asshole as it sounds like he is, a piece of paper and a three to five minute response time from the police isn't going to be beneficial.
Restraining orders can only do so much, if this guy is as much as an asshole as it sounds like he is, a piece of paper and a three to five minute response time from the police isn't going to be beneficial.
Live in northern Ireland man. Uk laws are strict on any weapon carrying. He is an asshole and I don't know why she told him. I know she loved him but still. that really pissed me off.
04-15-2015, 12:43 PM
#25
ShinigamiUzi
Proud to be a Player
Originally posted by Sempiternal
hey guys. for almost 2 months now I've been seeing a girl. she's great and we met through work. we both got dumped around the same time and when talking about it and getting to know each other we had chemistry and started seeing each other. Yesterday her ex, let's call him John, text her and asked her has she been seeing anyone and she said me. He then text her back with claims that he will "carry his head off" and "beat the f*%k out of" aimed at me also calling me a sly rat and that if he sees me he "won't be able to control myself".
here's the problem. I'm not by any means a fighter. and this guy is. he's been cautioned by police for assault and is a pretty hard guy. I'm not sure how to deal with this guy. any advice?
here's the problem. I'm not by any means a fighter. and this guy is. he's been cautioned by police for assault and is a pretty hard guy. I'm not sure how to deal with this guy. any advice?
John ? Oh god
I met a guy named John and he was a fucking magnet , every girl I talked to he was after me and I couldn't hooked up because of this guy
04-15-2015, 01:22 PM
#26
{OM}1337{OM}
Hurah!
Since we're not all gun toting rednecks from 'Murica and you live in Ireland challenge him to a bar fight and go Colin Firth style (if you have seen Kingsmen you will know what I'm on about) on his ass and you shall emerge victorious.
But in all seriousness tell the cops and get a restraining order on him or something. People like him should be locked up.
But in all seriousness tell the cops and get a restraining order on him or something. People like him should be locked up.
04-15-2015, 01:30 PM
#27
Sempiternal
Previously uG~ Wounded
Originally posted by ShinigamiUzi
John ? Oh god
I met a guy named John and he was a fucking magnet , every girl I talked to he was after me and I couldn't hooked up because of this guy
I met a guy named John and he was a fucking magnet , every girl I talked to he was after me and I couldn't hooked up because of this guy
I was considering leaving the girl I'm with, but I'm 20 years old now and Ive been picked on and bullied my entire life and I said to myself "Fuck him. I'm not being bullied out of seeing this girl that I really like". Stand up for yourself bro and do what sometimes has to be done. Win or lose you've stood your ground and your pride will remain intacted
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04-16-2015, 12:13 AM
#28
Raiden
Banned
He sounds like a pussy. If he was going to do something to you, if he wasn't running his mouth to cover the fact he's butthurt, then he would just do something without saying a word.
Best thing you can do is completely ignore him, if you do cross paths and there's no alternative but to fight, just make sure you throw the first punch. Practice punching, if you catch him sweet enough with 1 punch to the jaw, he will hit the deck and in theory be knocked the fuck out. Size doesn't mean shit! The bigger they are, the harder they fall.
Don't let him put fear in you, he sounds like a typical bully. And bullies usually shit themselves when they meet someone who's not scared.
1 last thing, do NOT carry a weapon.. He's not worth getting in serious trouble for.
Best thing you can do is completely ignore him, if you do cross paths and there's no alternative but to fight, just make sure you throw the first punch. Practice punching, if you catch him sweet enough with 1 punch to the jaw, he will hit the deck and in theory be knocked the fuck out. Size doesn't mean shit! The bigger they are, the harder they fall.
Don't let him put fear in you, he sounds like a typical bully. And bullies usually shit themselves when they meet someone who's not scared.
1 last thing, do NOT carry a weapon.. He's not worth getting in serious trouble for.
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