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So there's this girl I really deeply love and care for. Dated her for over a year but for months I've been really rude to her and she just got fed up with it. I didn't change, she gave me chances but I just didn't. It wasn't until we broke up that I finally realized, I NEED to change.

She wants to remain friends, but is talking to some other guy that I KNOW she barely met after our break up. She didn't tell me about him, I just found out on my own. She seems to be on the rebound, though they're not dating.
The thing that bothers me is that she said "we can still be friends and one day maybe we'll get back together. You still have a chance".

So I'm stuck here deciding if she's even worth fighting or worth waiting for. I've cut all contact with her, to work on myself and focus on myself. Hope that she misses me during this time period. If not, she'll just grow closer to the rebound. But me staying friends atm is NOT an option, I refuse to be her safety net!

She loves me very dearly, but I guess she got fed up with everything. She was even crying when she told me she wanted to be friends..

Thing is, I don't have to change for her. I'm naturally a nice caring guy, but things got in the way and somehow I acted rude towards her. If it weren't for those stupid obstacles, I would still be treating her right. In the end, it's the fact that I changed, not that I need to change. This breakup has helped me realize many of my flaws though.

And FYI, she IS a lot like me. We share a lot of common traits and values, yet different in our own way. It's just that I let games and friends get between us.. Plenty of fish in the sea but I've never loved a girl that way & that much before :/

Hey I am in the same situation, But after a year of not having her and not being with her it is not nearly as hurtful as it was, Time heals everything and the best thing to do is act like your completely unfazed from the break-up. It wll drive he mad!! Post pictures on facebook of you with friends out in public, Maybe with one or 2 girls it works like magic.

Oh I see, well love works both ways. So I suggest you try mate, apologise to her and prove to her your not that cocky guy anymore and if she cares she'll accept. Good luck bro

I was never really cocky lol. Idk, would it be a good idea to contact her after 30 days? I mean the only thing stopping me would be that other dude she's talking to. She's so into him like ugh.



A year is a long time man. I don't think I can hold up for that long :/ lol yeah I want to put pics of me and another girl but idk yet. She put a few pics of herself on Facebook all happy like wtf. It hurt bad to see her all happy without me..

You should show her that you have changed, prove it too her somehow. As long as she has had time to think, you've had yours to change, maybe you deserve a final chance. Don't be jealous but try to win her back, prove your better than the guy and if she is clever enough, she will see it.

Yeah prove to her I've changed after some time sounds like a good idea. I mean, at one point she did say she wanted to be friends so I could realize and change my ways, and that maybe we'll get back together then. She also "hopes" I change, but then a couple days later talks to another guy? I'm so confused, or maybe SHE's confused herself on what she wants. This other guy does seem nice though so I'm not sure if the odds are in my favor :/ all I know is, I'd do anything to win her back bro. What I need to do I think is not be all sensitive or nagging when I talk to her. I'm gonna sound all happy about my life and I think that'll attract her. I've been going out a lot so I'll have so much to tell her.

Yea I know it hurts, I tried killing myself twice over this girl. Its going to hurt like hell and your going to be very confused. Just make her not important to you and she will sense that, Don't date anyone else until you 100% over her because that could screw things up for you. Just live your life, Work on yourself and don't talk to her for a month.. its called the no contact rule after a break up. You spend 30 days not talking to her and spend it bettering yourself and having fun! She doesn't like this guy. Hes just a rebound so she doesn't feel the emptiness from her break-up. Like I said, make you she feels as if the break up is not even on your mind

I've thought about doing stupid things to myself too, but I convinced myself that it ain't worth it. I still think about it at times though :/ yeah I am aware of the no contact rule, which is currently what I'm doing for a week or two now. Would it even work if I contacted her after the 30 days? Because she has this other guy remember? Also, how would I break no contact? I'm still unsure on what to say to break it. If I never break it then she might forget about me or think I completely gave up on her.. Decisions decisions..

I don't mean to be harsh mate but sometimes it just dosent work out for one of you. Your right in what you say to do. Act all normal and happy. Just talk to her often, offer her things she likes. At the end of the day. For someone to love someone they need too like you in everyone